Bringing Sexy Back, first part in a series

Sometimes, when faced with the pressure of kids, career, and family, couples can find themselves in a romantic slump.

Maybe one partner feels there isn't enough time to devote to creative love making, or maybe one partner is just too tired at the end of a long week to really focus on special time.

Or maybe one partner is just a selfish lover and maybe should think about someone else's needs for once and stop being so demanding and also maybe offer chocolates and a foot rub once in a a while instead of just whining about it being "that time" and "kind of thinking about a blow job" every day for five-to-seven days in a row.

The point is that couples must make time for each other, invest in the sexual and romantic relationship to reignite those old sparks that got them those adorable kiddos in the first place, eh?

Here at Naked Cupcakes, we are offering a series on bringing the va-va-va back to the voom.

Please join us for ...

Lovemaking, Lesson 1

Role Playing

After many years together, couples sometimes find lovemaking becomes routine. Well, there are some great ways to make whoopie exciting again!

Role playing offers couples the opportunity to "meet" a "stranger" or a "cheerleader" or even a "celebrity." The possibilities are endless, and it can be fun to experiment with different characters and situations!

Taking turns to help each other fulfill fantasies can provide excitement for both parties. For instance, on one turn, she's a lusty businesswoman who has little time for anything but a cheap one-night stand.

Another night, he could be a bartender, calling a late night cab for the drunk girl, flirting with her friend, and then maybe somehow turning into a businessman taking off his suit and banging the friend right there on the desk while his secretary holds his calls, and then he is suddenly the young high school teacher threatening to give her a "D" unless she does some "extra credit." And then - well, that's when the shower ends, so we really never know how the story ends.

Role playing can provide the opportunity to explore fantasies, is the point.

Other times, perhaps, take advantage of every day situations where role play could develop naturally, and let it play out. Use it to inspire a session later, in case the timing is wrong.

For instance, say someone wants to play "dragon." (Click the diagram to enlarge.)

Maybe you'll find role playing isn't for you, and that's OK.

The point is to keep trying until you find what works for your relationship.

It's always fun trying - and there's definitely a learning curve when two people commit to spicing things up in the boudoir.

When your backs heal, we'll move on to the next lesson ... Sexy Talk.